Sometimes, it’s not how you say it; it’s what you say. There are some things that you should never say to your girlfriend. Now, I’m not advising that you inhibit your freedom of speech or that you walk on eggshells around your spouse. Relationships should be full of communication, loving and fun. However, there are some things that might be mean and cause unnecessary tension. So to avoid that, we’ve compiled a list of things that you should never say to your girlfriend:
•”YOU’RE TOO EMOTIONAL “
You just stomped all over her feelings. It could be several reasons why she’s acting out the way she is. You can use tactful ways of ascertaining the reason. This should not be said in an argument/disagreement. Anything along the lines of “You’re overreacting” or indicating it’s her time of the month in an argument will make things worse. Try to be considerate of her feelings. Picture your favorite football team just lost the championships and you get emotional, how would you want your woman to console you?
•GOSH :“SHE’S BEAUTIFUL/HOT”
Especially if you’re rarely told your girlfriend that she’s beautiful and you say this often of other females. It’s even worse if you say this while your eyes are locked on that female. In some cases, it might be said innocently but it will impact your spouse negatively. Your spouse will feel at ill ease and question your appreciation of her worth. She might not feel so special to you. Tables turned, how would you feel?
If you keep bringing up things about your ex-girlfriend, it could indicate that you haven’t moved on. Relationship author and speaker Jenna McCarthy states that it will feel insulting if you speak about your ex-girlfriend especially if you’re comparing/praising your past girlfriend. Are you in a relationship with the present woman in your life or the ghost of your life?
•ANYTHING THAT REFERS TO HER BODY NEGATIVELY
You might think it’s constructive criticism but it might come off to your spouse that you really don’t like her body. This might fester in her mind and be particularly toxic to the relationship. She might not feel as sexy and begin to feel self-conscious in bed. Research has shown that majority of women dislike their bodies. You’re just adding fuel to fire when you speak about her body in a not so nice way. Find ways that show care/concern for your partner. If you realize she’s overweight, don’t say “You’re fat”, try instead “let’s change our diet or go to the gym together”. Your words should demonstrate genuine care and not just criticize.
•SAYING NOTHING AT ALL
She just poured her heart out to you and all you give her is dead air. While it might be that you just don’t know what to say, it might come off to her that you don’t care enough to share your thoughts.